Mini Break-Ups Call For Mini Cake-Pops


So here's how day three goes... this guy I've been "dating" for just a few weeks... four to be exact... splits up with me. Now, it's no big deal, right? I mean, it's only been four weeks... throw the holidays in the mix, and well, it's been like two days. So, really. No. Big. Deal. Here's the thing... he's sober. And was a bit of an inspiration to me in finally deciding to commit to a year of sobriety. So, I kinda liked the idea of him being around. But he's not gonna be and that's OK.

Because I believe everyone comes into your life for a reason. To teach you something. Or show you something. Or as a marker, telling you you're on the right path. MM (as we'll call him) was the third alcohol-free man to enter my life in the past 9 months. (Talk about signs from the universe!) He was certainly a marker. He was sent to assure me that I'm on the right path. Because of him, I found the courage to accept my past and to be honest with myself & others about my drinking. He also taught me that it's OK to choose to be sober. He really made me feel that no matter what my story was, or what my drinking was, that I am OK. I am enough, just as I am. And maybe he thought I was too much to take me on... this crazy girl with a drinking history of her own that he'd rather not be involved with. A wild card that he doesn't need in his deck while he deals with his own sobriety. Who knows??

Either way, here I am. Third day of the New Year. Third day of my year long sobriety. And first day of my mini break-up. I'm bummed. But I'll grow. And I'll move on. The important thing is that the universe has shown me that I'm on the right path. Without a doubt, and perhaps for the first time in my life... on the right path. And that, my friends, calls for celebration. Let's eat mini cake-pops!!

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